A Very Selfish Proclaimed Wayward Spouse

WELL! WELL! 

I get a comment on one of my post from a very selfish proclaimed wayward spouse on http://beerlove.wordpress.com/causes-and-types-of-extramarital-relationships/ telling me about a new blog.  I go and check it out – low and behold – yep he/she is a cheater and makes no bones about it.  So I respond to him/her on their blog http://loveisthebug.wordpress.com/2008/10/21/how-to-have-a-successful-illicit-encounters/ (I’m sure he/she will not approve my comment – below is what I wrote).

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unbelievable!!

That is the answer LIE, CHEAT AND DECIEVE YOUR SPOUSE!!

Your spouse deserves better!! Do her/him a favor and get a divorce! You are a selfish PIG!! A WALKING STD!!

Beerlove

He/She even went so far as to send me a personal email that reads.

From: Beast Master

Who are you to judge the actions of others God ? I doubt it

So shut up you no idea what your talking about and its your stupid opinnion

 

Look at the facts 54% of Men 34% of women are having an affair

As your self why ?

Maybe they want to stay married Idiot!!!

Proves my point that unremorseful adulterers think only of themselves – they are self-righteous and justify their self-gratifications whether emotional or physical all at the expense of spouse/kids/family.

Of course I responded to his email and wrote.

Thanks for the heads up on your blog!!

Oh and ezek281 or Beast Master (what ever you want to call yourself)

FYI: in your email to me you assume I’ve cheated “As your self why ?” I am the Betrayed Spouse – I have never cheated on my husband, EVER!!  Read, “Letter to the Other Woman” and “I Blame Them Both“, along with “About Me”, “My Pain”, and my “Journal”.

One other thing Beast Master it is evident that  you have no integrity or honor for yourself or your marriage.  Hey I have an idea – why don’t you honor your spouse with the truth – give her a choice to find real honorable loyal love.  Obviously, you are not a Christian – maybe she will want an open marriage where she is free to mess around too.

Oh well!!

Update:

This post was copied onto a derogatory site – not the site owner of this post I’m talking about here.  I’ve emailed this site and have asked them to delete my content. I’m waiting patiently for them to delete my content before I take further action.  So if you happen to see this content or any content of mine on any site that that does not reflect my views please contact me.  Anyone is allowed to read or copy my content and use it in a positive way with exceptions to porn sites, or any site that demoralizes human beings.

So anyway – back on topic.

Yes, he deleted my comment from above.  Your comment is awaiting moderation.  Oh well!!!

It just amazes me how this guy twists around and justifies himself enticing people to cheat on their spouses (I’ll assume the site owner is male).  He points reference to Mira Kirshenbaum book, “When Good People Have Affairs”.  Now I don’t agree with her book ideology and what I’ve seen all over the Internet is more and more cheaters justifying lying and cheating, such as Peter Cook (Christie Brinkley’s ex).  I have an interview of Mira Kirshenbaum I’d like my readers to listen to explaining her book.  Click on the links to listen – Part1 and Part2.  Notice that the author talks about serial cheaters (Pathological) are not part of her book, she referred to people that make a one time mistake, not serial cheaters.  Let me tell you this guy that promotes lying and cheating clearly lacks character of integrity. Below is his article on the subject.

Having an affair could help your marriage  (click on the link and scroll down to see his abhorred justification.

And if you scroll down even more read his blog article on “Those righteous know it alls on Married Affairs!!”. 

What is even more chilling is that this guy justifies himself through scripture. 

Most self righteous people tend to like to quote the bible. Well there is a good phrase in the  bible that says:

1	Judge not, that ye be not judged.
2	For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. Mk. 4.24
3	And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
4	Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
5	Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.
6	¶ Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.

My message to him is this:  Truth is not self righteous – but using scripture to deceive others to commit adultery – That is SELF RIGHTEOUS!  I spoke the TRUTH and this guy Justifies the LIE, using scripture.  Who cares about my Judgment of this guy because it is not me he will have to answer to.  How would this self-proclaimed serial cheater justify himself to Jesus on his Judgement day, who knows.  But one thing is for sure I’m so glad that I spoke the Truth.  I wonder how his wife will Judge him when she finds out about his Double Mindedness, how will he justify cheating on her, then??  Believe me, she will one day find out.

Click here to see what a Christian Marriage should look like!  This is easy to read but so hard to live.  We all stumble and fall, brush yourself off and keep moving.  Love is a choice! Commitment is a choice! Marriage is a choice!  Faithfulness is a choice!  God knows your heart and you can never lie to HIM.  All our choices are from the heart!!

On a final note, I highly recommend reading this site. It’s insightful into self. “REPEATING BEHAVIORS THAT WE HATE“

What does the Bible say about lying? Should believers lie?

A study regarding lies, liars and self-deception.

Please always get the latest version of this document, from the Bible Pages web site, at this address:
http://www.biblepages.web.surftown.se/eo05b.htm
For essays and articles on related and other subjects, see the table of contents and the key-word index.

Is there any scriptural guidance regarding lies and deceitfulness? This essay contains a study regarding lies, liars and self-deception (the latter is the same as lying to oneself). Scriptures in both the Old Testament and the New Testament will be considered. In short: The subject of this study is, what does the Bible say about lying? Should believers lie?

First, however, a quote from mundane literature. The following is a somewhat accurate (translated) citation from Fyodor Dostoevsky’s book “The Brothers Karamazov” – please read this short quote with care and thought:

[...] The important thing is to stop lying to yourself. A man who lies to himself and believes his own lies becomes unable to recognise the truth, either in himself or in anyone else, and he ends up losing respect for himself as well as for others. When he has no respect for anyone, he can no longer love, and in order to divert himself, having no love in him, he yields to his impulses, indulges in the lowest forms of pleasure, and behaves in the end like an animal, in satisfying his vices - all this being caused by that man's continual lying to himself and to others. [...]

Another translation (by C. Garnett, quoted from the 1995 edition by The Modern Library, New York):

[...] Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to such a pass that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love, and in order to occupy and distract himself without love he gives away to passions and coarse pleasures, and sinks to bestiality in his vices, all from continual lying to other men and to himself. [...]

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