The Mr. and The Mrs.

I met him 14 years ago in 1994, he was my son’s karate instructor, now My HUSBAND!!! My husand went to my parents to ask them to marry me without my knowing – of course they were excited.  My Husband’s proposal was the most romantic proposal. He surprised me with a trip, on a train to Toronto, Ontario, to see my favorite play “Phantom of the Opera” on July 1st 1996 (after being together for almost 2 years). We dinned before the surprise and then to the Opera. It was the best play I’ve ever seen. The most beautiful event was after the play that night at the fireworks on Lake Ontario when the sky was light up for the Grand Finally; my now husband got on his knee with a ring (my husband picked the ring out himself and he made sure I had my favorite stone of emeralds – A beautiful Diamond with Emeralds around the diamond ) in his hand and asked me to marry him. I was streaming of tears. It was the most loving moment. People around us were clapping and crying when they saw him on his knee asking for my hand in marriage. I looked into his eyes and kissed him and now we are man and wife for almost 10 years with 3 kids.   Wedding Day June 20, 1998

Our Wedding Song: “FROM THIS MOMENT ON”, by Shaina Twain.

This is a long journey. I wish I could just close my eyes and this nightmare would go away. The man I married has changed in an unhealthy way. Now we (Husband, myself, and my kids) are unhealthy and all need help – all from one man’s choices, the father/husband/the guardian of his family. The responsibility was to much for him; he wasn’t mature enough to handle it. Anger kills the heart and soul of any of us. We moved here to GA for my husband education (Big mistake). With school (Chiropractic),working, and kids there was no time for just us. My poor sleep deprived husband became an angry man (abusive in so many ways) and to boot we were dealing with a teenager that broke all the rules. Life for us became disheartening. I missed him so much. I did not have my friend anymore, we were all to busy. Our lives were out of control. I no longer know the man I married, I just know I Love him. The things I did that bother him I had no idea, even when I asked. Apparently, they did bother him but he chose to deni them to me. Maybe to justify himself, to seek out an affair. I did not know what was going on inside of him. How does a person justify what will damage you even more in the end, not to mention your spouse and kids, along with extended family. Everyone is broken now because of one man’s choice to lie and deceive (The Betrayer). The affair started around March of 2003. How do I know there hasn’t been other women. I hear people talk were he was working, are they liars too, or are they not going to protect him anymore. I find he is a different person at home then when he is at work. All Red Flags. He does not like to talk about this. He has lied to our counselors. He has lied to everyone. What a rollcoater ride. I caught him in October 2004. I Still find him not getting it, but really I think if he looks inside of himself he is not going to like what he sees and that stops him from getting it. I want to be there loving him through all this bad stuff but I’m not going to stay with someone who lies and cheats and won’t be transparent and grow straight and become a renewed person with God’s help.. I am praying we can grow together. We have our kids to think about. We have to get ourselves emotionally healthy for the kids. He has so many issues that go back to childhood. He has brother that is a serial cheater and a father that is controlling and angry. And Porn has been an issue in his family. So many things I did not realize or did I over look it. I have to protect my kids from his own family. I’m so tired and lonely all the time. I miss my friend. I would not wish this on anyone ever. This brings you to the fires of HELL.